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Privacy and having alone time for ourselves can be a huge challenge, even when we’re living in a larger sized home, and have rooms that we can sneak away to for a few minutes of alone time, or even just a quick breather!
When it comes to living in a small, tiny home, this challenge becomes nearly impossible, unless you schedule or plan in getting some private alone time. For our family, we went from living in a typical single-family stick and brick home, to moving into our RV camper, and traveling full-time. Being on the road adds an extra dimension to the issue of having privacy and alone time. Being in such a small home, especially one on wheels, and being on the road and in such close (and obviously small) living quarters can be a tough thing at times. It’s often hard to find alone time, or personal time to just be, and do something for yourself – and not involving the others directly around you.
As a mom, most of the time I’m doing things that relate to tending to the family and the ‘home’ and I don’t have much time for myself, anyway! But, when I do… usually the others are right there with me.
The main times that I find myself with any time alone… are usually times when the weather is really nice and warm out, and the kids are out and about, playing in the dirt…riding their bikes or scooters, or playing with friends they’ve made at whichever campground we’re staying at at the time. Sometimes I find myself with alone time when hubby is working on the RV, or working on a project, while the kids are playing. Many times, the only alone time that we have is at night, when the kids are asleep. We find that many nights, by that time of the day, we are in need of our own time alone to de-stress, relax, and unwind. Other nights, we like to watch a show together, sit and visit, or even make a snack or do a project together as a couple.
There have been a few times where our oldest child, Liam, who is a lot like his mother… and seems introverted and often needing (and wanting) time by himself, which is hard to do when we’re all together, and within mere feet of each other 90% of the time. It’s often tricky to find the time and ability to make it happen where each of us get that alone time, and privacy that we need. However, making privacy and alone time happen isn’t as completely impossible as it seems. I think the key to ensuring that family members have their own alone time is to plan and schedule the time in. If someone needs or wants it, it needs to be worked into the schedule. Being a full-time family on the road means that our couple time is extremely limited to night time (for our family!), and our individual time is very dependent upon the weather, and what each of us is doing that particular day.
We also realize that as parents, we sort of signed up for having less privacy and alone time when we had children. We know and realize that in years to come, our little ones won’t be so little anymore. As parents always hear, They will be too big to want to be around us constantly, like they do right now. Although parenting is a struggle, and not having alone time is very overhelming at times (especially being an introvert), we know that once they grow up and become adults, once they are long gone out of our homes, and have families of their own, we will have more alone time then.
This is only a season of our lives, and I bet….I just bet….that when it’s over, we will miss it.